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Monday thought #19: Why I don't worry - even in times which are anxiety-inducing

This week I had a phone call with my best friend in the US. We talked about the usual topics…kids, our own challenges and joys (like my new puppy) and finally about the currently biggest and most threatening topic: the war in Europe. 

At the end of the conversation she asked: "Are you worried?" (my definition of worry = a chain of negative thoughts about bad things that might happen in the future), and I answered: 

"No, I'm not."

Not because it's not threatening or my personal beliefs about if this will escalate or not. I feel for all the people suffering and I'm very sad that this can happen in this day and age. 

I'm not worried though because it does not help. 

Not me. 

Not anybody else in my life or among those who are directly affected. 

And it definitely does not change the situation. 

In fact, it makes my days worse if I do."

Am I indifferent to this awful situation? Or cold like a fish?

Neither. 

I used to worry a lot. 

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Monday thought #18: The Power of Daily Intention Setting

Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thought #18: The Power of Daily Intention Setting
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Waking up in the morning and reaching for the phone is really easy. Even easier to quickly check the e-mails and being immediately sucked in by all the demand coming from right, left and center.

Or reading something that immediately could ruin my day.

Been there, done that.

I used to stumble into my days like that.

Of course I planned and (almost) always had my "to-do" lists and made an effort to work through them. Most days though it did not work out. Too many distractions, too many things to do anyway.

Leaving me exhausted and dissatisfied….mostly with myself.

The rare days where everything went smoothly were great but the exception.

So I asked myself the question: What if more days could be smoother, go in the direction I'd like them to go and feel great at the end of it?

The power of INTENTION SETTING

Some years ago then  - during one of the courses I attended - I heard about intention setting.

Yeah - great.... another tool (how many "productivity tools do you...

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Monday thought #17: "How to deal with "negative" or "bad" emotions, what most people do instead - and why my suggestion is only for the courageous ones"

Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thought #17: "How to deal with "negative" or "bad" emotions, what most people do instead - and why my suggestion is only for the courageous ones"
22:34
 

Are you ready to take charge?

Are you prepared to walk into some discomfort?

There is a reason I ask those questions - because if you're not - this podcast is not for you.

Admittedly we all cringe when being confronted with what most of us would call "negative" or "bad" emotions. 

Many of us rather pull our fingernails out than talk or even deal with that kind of stuff. 

I get it - it's uncomfortable, it might even create some fear ("how the heck do I deal with it anyway?"), but quite honestly - I've experienced that the whole topic is much easier to deal with than I thought years ago. 

And still, many people don't know the HOW and just want them to go away. 

Pushing them away comes with a price though. 

AND there are convincing reasons why all of us better talk about this topic. To be precise - in this podcast, you'll learn about 6 of them - pretty sure there are even more. 

So, here's what I'm talking about:

1. The 6 reasons WHY it's so...

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Monday thought #16: The ONE thing that everybody wants....

Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thought #16: The ONE thing that everybody wants....
14:56
 

….is….to feel good.

 Huh?

 "That is not rocket science, Claudia...I really expected something more spectacular!" - you might think.

You're right - it isn't. 

The thing is - good can mean many different things for different people.

AND - many don't. Feel good that is (reason enough to talk about it!)

At least not when they are honest with themselves and don't put the social media or "professional" mask on.

Because they're waiting for the next thing to happen to ALLOW themselves to feel good.

 The infamous.....

If/when I do/achieve/have ……I will feel great/happy/good/successful….(fill in the blanks).

Tricky though. Cause it might not happen.

IF it comes though... the money, the career, the lover…they can all trigger us feeling great. Nothing wrong with that.

BUT today I have a different suggestion.

Listen in to this week's podcast to my pondering of:

1. What "good" means for different people
2. Why the circumstances or other...

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Monday thought #15: My 3 Words for 2022

direction monday thoughts Jan 10, 2022
Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thought #15: My 3 Words for 2022
12:13
 

Those who know me a bit longer know that during the last years I've always chosen one or some words each year.

 

Words for what is important for me in life (and work) - and to focus on them throughout the year.

 

It does not replace setting (external) goals - it rather complements it. 

 

This year I chose 3 words.

 

Contrary to last year - where I only came to define them in February - this year they bubbled up fairly easily. I tried them on, rolled them over in my head and heart and waited for them to resonate.

 

They did. 

 

In this podcast series you'll hear

 

  • WHY defining a (or more) word(s) for the year make sense for everybody
  • What these words have to do with your external goals
  • What my words are (and why I chose them)

 

What I forgot to mention (despite announcing it during the podcast...) is how I make sure I won't forget these words throughout the year - so they don't meet the same fate as most NY's resolutions ;-)....as...

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An (involuntary) lesson of how to deal with uncertainty and unpredictability

The ups and downs with Covid and its consequences over the last couple of years were basically an intensive course to learn how to deal with uncertainty and unpredictability. 

I dealt with several unexpected situations this year (well, and the previous year). But during the last week, I had the ultimate chance to "test" how much my learning holds up. 

And I realized that there is particularly ONE thing that helps me (and a couple of other concepts on top of that) - which can even lead to unexpected results….more on that in a bit. 

We all know that situations/people close to our hearts affect us the most. 

So also in my story. 

Here's what happened.

My daughter - who has been living in the UK for quite some time - decided in the summer to come home for Christmas. After not having been home for the last 3 years (an attempt in 2019 went wrong due to some misinformation regarding trains and dogs….but that's another story).

We were all aware of the...

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Monday thought #14: The most important relationship you'll ever have in your life...

Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thought #14: The most important relationship you'll ever have in your life...
14:44
 

... for being or becoming a great leader. Or simply having the life you really want. 

One relationship?

Really? We need a whole network and many relationships to be successful, don't we?

Yes, absolutely.

And still, success and leadership starts somewhere else.

THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.

And having a good one is in fact rarer than you might think!

Last week I had several  conversations with people and I listened to a number of issues and challenges people face in their leadership roles. 

And  interestingly ALL of them led back to the same root cause: namely that the leaders  have not enough awareness of themselves and did not know themselves intimately.

We tend to look outside and notice other peoples's behaviour, their flaws, their patterns, their perks.

What many don't do often: look inside. 

Totally natural - we tend to be rather blind towards some of our own stuff for a number of reasons.

The most important one: NOBODY TAUGHT US HOW TO DO...

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Monday thoughts #13: Why communication between men and women (often) falls flat (and my epiphany)

Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thoughts #13: Why communication between men and women (often) falls flat (and my epiphany)
8:43
 

I'm currently reading a book which deals with a topic I'm exploring: how different men and women "tick" and what that means for communication and relationships inside and outside of the business environment.

It actually opens up a completely new aspect for, but not exclusively, leadership.

The book provided me with some insights which made sense to me, nothing revolutionary though.

Until I came to a part of the story where the author describes the different ways of thinking.

The masculine or male way - single focused.
And the feminine or female way - the brain goes in all kinds of directions.

Btw - this is not necessarily about gender...but often is...more in the podcast.

The fact is though - it impacts communication big time.
I clearly noticed that when the author describes the typical dynamic as a result of the differences. I had to laugh out loud - not necessarily because it was funny, but because I felt that she was talking about me (and some of the men in my life).

What an...

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Monday thought #12: "Stop glamorizing overwork & busyness"

Claudia Hesse, The Better Workplace
Monday thought #12: "Stop glamorizing overwork & busyness"
15:09
 

We need to stop glamorizing overwork and busyness - please! 

It's nothing to be applauded. Particularly when the consequences are dire. And still too many people wear exhaustion, a fully packed calendar which does not leave any breathing space and even burnout as a badge of honour. 

Why? 

Well, there are a number of factors. Having to do with beliefs we grew up with in our society (and believe me - they are utterly unhelpful!) and because we live in a (working) world where demands are so high that - most of the time - they literally cannot be fulfilled. 

Sounds like a conundrum? Maybe.

You've got the power though - to change it. 

Listen in to this week's Monday thoughts to learn:

1. The two major beliefs that keep us stuck in overworking and busyness
2. The underlying reasons why it's so hard to say good bye to overwork
3. The 3 main strategies to get out of overwork and busyness and towards more joy and energy.

Got any questions or comments? Just drop me an...

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Human. Imperfect. And still worthy.

Some days ago, I attended a meetup where we talked about failure culture. Fascinating views and conversations. And it inspired me to write this up. Maybe it serves you too - if so, let I'd love to hear from you. Just drop me an e-mail at [email protected]

 

"I am really good at my job - and still make mistakes.

I adore honesty - and still I lie sometimes.

I have clear  boundaries - and still on occasions don't manage to say no.

I decided to not participate in drama - and still find myself in it from time to time.

I am a strong leader - and still, also soft and yearn to be taken care of occasionally.

I am generally organized - and sometimes still chaotic.

I'm a serious person - and still laugh about silly stuff.

I'm a feminist - and still love (most) men.

I'm a happy person - and can still fall into a black hole sometimes.

I generally know what's the right thing to do - and still fail to do it every once in a while.

I'm ambitious - and still have totally...

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